Why does a dog chew what it chews? It never really occurred to me that there was any 'reason' in what a dog chose to chew. If I coe home and find that something in the house is destroyed I have just considered it an indication that they need to get out more. In other words it was my fault and it served me right for not giving them what they needed. It never occurred to me to wonder what made them decide what to chew.
My hamiltonstovare Jack, quite often chomps on books and pens, but it never occurred to me there was any reason for the choice.
One day I was standing by a bookshelf in the house and I noticed Jack was carefully sniffing along the spines of books on one of the shelves. He seemed to be sniffing each one in turn. Then, as I watched, he seemed to select one of the books and started to pull it off the shelf. I gently intervened, put the book higher up, out of reach, before he started to get his teeth into it. He continued scenting along the remainder of the books. He stopped at a second book and once again went to pull it off the shelf. I intervened a second time. He continued his search, stopping at a third book, which was again rescued from his jaws. He moved along to another shelf of books, as I watched and sniffed along the full length of the bookcase, at which point he gave up, unable to find anything else 'of interest'.
This sparked my curiosity. What was going on? I shared the experience with Natural Dog Training followers and Lee Charles Kelly explained our dogs tend to chew the things that we are 'ambivalent towards'.
I checked out the meaning of 'ambivalent' :
Ambivalence is a state of having simultaneous, conflicting feelings toward a person or thing. Stated another way, ambivalence is the experience of having thoughts and/or emotions of both positive and negative valence toward someone or something. A common example of ambivalence is the feeling of both love and hate for a person. The term also refers to situations where "mixed feelings" of a more general sort are experienced, or where a person experiences uncertainty or indecisiveness concerning something. The expressions "cold feet" and "sitting on the fence" are often used to describe the feeling of ambivalence.
Ambivalence is experienced as psychologically unpleasant when the positive and negative aspects of a subject are both present in a person's mind at the same time. This state can lead to avoidance or procrastination, or to deliberate attempts to resolve the ambivalence. When the situation does not require a decision to be made, people experience less discomfort even when feeling ambivalent.
Pasted from <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambivalence>
I looked back at the books that Jack had selected. A couple on gardening and one on creative knitting - all hobbies that I had picked up and was frustrated at not having more time to be really good at. I decided to pick out a selection if books that had been 'attacked' by Jack previously.
'Hearts Minds and Paws' - a lovely book written by Nina Bodorenko whose workshop I had attended the previous year. Her workshop was inspiring, describing her work in teaching service dogs and touching on her experiences with the amazing emotional links we have with our dogs. Her book shares some of the stories and also her own drawings of dogs. When I read the book I had loved it, but have also to confess to being a bit jealous, as that would have been something I would love to have created (mixed emotion of 'love' and 'hate').
'Glorious Inspiration' - by Kaffe Fassett - a book of beautiful imagery designed to whet the appetites of creative knitters and embroiders, reminding of the creativity I used to enjoy when I was much younger and now too busy to enjoy.
'An Introduction to Working Trials' - something I had dabbled in with Jack and had given up on after the embarrassment of a scenting trial where I was disqualified, due to my poor reading of my dog 🙁
'Astrology - an illustrated guide' - reading this book had filled me with wonder but, once again, I found myself thinking I don't have enough time to understand as fully as I would like (interest and frustration)
'Aurajin - Recognising Spirit it Matter' - by Carol Klesow - A fascinating subject but when I had read this book previously I had just not understood it, much as I wanted to.
So, just as my Natural Dog Training friend had explained, my dog was chewing the things that I was 'ambivalent towards'.
In fact all the books that had been selected were of things I would like to take more time for and learn more about.
Now, with more time on my hands and developing ideas of what I want to do with my life I have found the insight that Jack has given me more than interesting - it is extremely helpful . I am reflecting on the books chosen and whether there is something more in each of them for me. My hamiltonstovare has helped me identify areas for which I have unresolved emotion. This is invaluable as I look at my choices going forward in life. For example, I went back to the 'Aurajin' book and giving it more time I found I was really interested in the subject matter - combining meanings of numerology, aurajin points and colour (I'm not doing the subject matter of the book justice in that description 🙂 ). I now go back to this book often when I am searching for meaning in things and have followed up more reading from its bibliography. I am working through the relevanceof the other books we have picked out - after all, 'everything is for a reason'!
So next time you come home and you find that your dog has chewed something in your absence, take a moment and consider what your 'best friend' is telling you about yourself. I am sure you will find the learning priceless !